Wow, kudos to you for turning your loneliness not only into something positive, but mean-making like art. While I did eventually get married, I was in your boat for many years. It's why I deleted my Facebook account (the first time, though it certainly was not the last). I wished I could have turned to something like art, but I am glad you have and are.
Is it true that breakups from short term relationships are more intense than breakups from long-term relationships? It seems counter-intuitive to me, but then again, I've never been in a real relationship until I met my husband LOL
Alhamdulillah I'm so grateful to have discovered art it actually keeps me sane.
That's what they saying about short term relationships! Honestly I believe it, I remember I had my heart attached to a boy I only shared twinkly eyes with a few times cause I was so lonely and desperate in uni.
Also I'd love to hear a 'how we met' story if you feel comfortable sharing.
Well I still remember crying in the car over a rishta that didn’t last long, but tbh, the rejection was a bit of a shock. But now I’m thankful for it. lol, I didn’t realize I ended up answering your curiosity in my latest post unprompted. I actually wrote an entire article about our story back in 2016. It’s less of a shock now but I still chuckle thinking about how it all ended up happening.
I resonate so strongly with having creative passions as a way to mitigate loneliness. What I've found recently, upon returning to dating apps, is that a lot of serial daters don't have many hobbies (unless you count going on dates). Writing is my emotional anchor amidst the chaos of everyday life. And quite honestly, having an enriching life makes you very picky about the type of people you want to bring into it - thus improving your relationships as well.
Yaa I feel like people with no hobbies lack depth and they’re dating out of boredom. I was like that too before I picked up hobbies. A relationship is not going to cure boredom or replace the need for hobbies and hobbies give a means to connect with other too. Like you said, increases the quality of relationships.
Okay this was such a new perspective. I never thought about art that way and the line about not needing romantic relationships to fulfill you was such an eye opener. We can express ourselves through art and since writing is also an art i really feel validated when others like my post comment on it share their feedback.
Mashallah i loved this piece I'll come back to it again n again. Maybe after this I'll look for ways to fullfill my emotional needs and not think about relationships. Honestly i always thought even though relationships are haram but they also bring happiness and they fullfill emotional needs there's so much we learn from one and another this and that but this post really gave me a new perspective to think on.
I'm glad this piece resonated with you!! When I started to explore with creativity more, it was an incredibly rewarding experience and really alleviated feelings of loneliness for me. Insha'Allah you'll find fulfillment through creativity as well. Honestly you could write fictional romance things too to express yourself, I do that when I'm craving human connection and so much art in the world depicts romance because that is a desire we seek to express through art too.
Really resonated with this piece Leena and I also agree with your points of using art as an outlet and form of validation. Thank you for the needed reminder! 🫶🏼
Lolll I used to be such a romantic but now I feel more sober, if that makes sense? (maybe a lil pessimistic as well). Romantic relationships can be nice, but we won't die without them. Romance is rizq, after all. Maybe it's written for me, maybe not.
literally resonated with this post man. thank u for writing this
You’re welcome! I’m glad it helped, thank you for reading!
Wow, kudos to you for turning your loneliness not only into something positive, but mean-making like art. While I did eventually get married, I was in your boat for many years. It's why I deleted my Facebook account (the first time, though it certainly was not the last). I wished I could have turned to something like art, but I am glad you have and are.
Is it true that breakups from short term relationships are more intense than breakups from long-term relationships? It seems counter-intuitive to me, but then again, I've never been in a real relationship until I met my husband LOL
Alhamdulillah I'm so grateful to have discovered art it actually keeps me sane.
That's what they saying about short term relationships! Honestly I believe it, I remember I had my heart attached to a boy I only shared twinkly eyes with a few times cause I was so lonely and desperate in uni.
Also I'd love to hear a 'how we met' story if you feel comfortable sharing.
Well I still remember crying in the car over a rishta that didn’t last long, but tbh, the rejection was a bit of a shock. But now I’m thankful for it. lol, I didn’t realize I ended up answering your curiosity in my latest post unprompted. I actually wrote an entire article about our story back in 2016. It’s less of a shock now but I still chuckle thinking about how it all ended up happening.
It’s so nice that you documented that story!!
I resonate so strongly with having creative passions as a way to mitigate loneliness. What I've found recently, upon returning to dating apps, is that a lot of serial daters don't have many hobbies (unless you count going on dates). Writing is my emotional anchor amidst the chaos of everyday life. And quite honestly, having an enriching life makes you very picky about the type of people you want to bring into it - thus improving your relationships as well.
Yaa I feel like people with no hobbies lack depth and they’re dating out of boredom. I was like that too before I picked up hobbies. A relationship is not going to cure boredom or replace the need for hobbies and hobbies give a means to connect with other too. Like you said, increases the quality of relationships.
Okay this was such a new perspective. I never thought about art that way and the line about not needing romantic relationships to fulfill you was such an eye opener. We can express ourselves through art and since writing is also an art i really feel validated when others like my post comment on it share their feedback.
Mashallah i loved this piece I'll come back to it again n again. Maybe after this I'll look for ways to fullfill my emotional needs and not think about relationships. Honestly i always thought even though relationships are haram but they also bring happiness and they fullfill emotional needs there's so much we learn from one and another this and that but this post really gave me a new perspective to think on.
I'm glad this piece resonated with you!! When I started to explore with creativity more, it was an incredibly rewarding experience and really alleviated feelings of loneliness for me. Insha'Allah you'll find fulfillment through creativity as well. Honestly you could write fictional romance things too to express yourself, I do that when I'm craving human connection and so much art in the world depicts romance because that is a desire we seek to express through art too.
Really resonated with this piece Leena and I also agree with your points of using art as an outlet and form of validation. Thank you for the needed reminder! 🫶🏼
I'm glad it resonated Alisha, Alhamdulillah!! It was a reminder for me too. May make it easy for us to find peace!
Ameen!
Lolll I used to be such a romantic but now I feel more sober, if that makes sense? (maybe a lil pessimistic as well). Romantic relationships can be nice, but we won't die without them. Romance is rizq, after all. Maybe it's written for me, maybe not.